Instead of taking the attitude of “I’m against it”, it's more practical to adopt the basic principle to get something positive from every situation.
Pointing your finger and thinking that the matter can only be resolved a certain way, or analysing things afterwards in order to change them, is a primitive way of thinking that is actually outdated. How can it be done better? Preventive! Using the Hidden Goals method you can see in advance whether a project or relationship, be it professional or personal, will succeed or fail.